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This Is What Happens When You Decide You Have No Fucks To Give
As a recovering ‘people pleaser,’ this was a surprising benefit to not caring what others think!
I have always been a people pleaser. I would put myself in uncomfortable situations to avoid conflict. I realize now that is a trauma response due to childhood trauma.
One day, I had enough. I decided to stop being a doormat and letting everyone walk all over me. I stopped giving a shit what people thought of me. When I changed my attitude, it changed my life.
Several years ago, I decided I had enough of putting myself in last place. I was burning the candle on both ends. I was trying to keep everyone happy with me at all times. It was exhausting.
No matter what I did, someone would have a problem with me. My adult children picked me apart. They blamed me for so many of their issues. I did my best raising them, but no one is a perfect mother. I certainly am not. However, I had to do something to bring myself peace.
One day, I just stopped giving a shit what people thought of me. I had no intention of my adult kids distancing themselves from me, but that was a consequence of me deciding to bring peace into my life.
